When God created male and female, He also made space for them to have intimacy, to truly Know one. another. In Song of Songs, we read about the sensual and fragrant metaphors of grapes, cedars, apples, and myrrh as symbols for healthy sexuality.
Although we can hold this framework for lush intimacy versus Playboy-style sexuality, as you well know, somewhere along the way, perfect intimacy was lost in Eden.
Yet despite the losses, there are ways you can truly come closer to one another.
Let’s spend some time thinking about what a precious and well-tended garden looks like.
First, there’s nuance, and there is variety across couples, and even seasons for each couple – it isn’t always the same, right, as couples enjoy different ways of enjoying one another each time they become intimate.
There are different seasons in a garden which also comes in our sexual lives as couples. There are things to root out that are causing other things to die or wither.
Some couples need extra space and time to process after a sexual moment together while others need more foreplay beforehand. Once you’ve grasped what is ideal, there is yet a change in one or both of you in terms of desire. This is SO normal.
More often than not a couple isn’t perfectly balanced in their needs, you’re not alone if you’re in that space. Please be loving, gentle, respectful, and open to talking about what makes you feel close, seen, safe, and most of all, loved.